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When Atinuke Olugbenro received a phone call from her nanny that her 11-year-old son was caught watching a pornographic movie, she nearly went insane.

“I don’t know if it was shock, or disbelief, or something else, all I know is that I just walked out of the office without speaking to anyone and rushed back home,” said the middle aged banker and single mother of one.

Her fears were confirmed when it turned out that her son had indeed bought a DVD x-rated film, and had been secretly watching it for over a month.

While complaining about it to a friend, she told me that the worst is that her neighbour’s six-year-old daughter was caught watching a pornographic film. What kind of devil incarnate will sell such a movie to children?

Despite an existing ban on the sale of pornographic material, peddlers have continued to display their wares in selected spots of the metropolis.

‘Karate’ films on sale

In an undercover survey conducted by NEXT, some of the street traders hide the x-rated films and only produce them upon inquiry while most of them brazenly displayed theirs. It was also discovered that the traders are bolder at night, and even go as far as soliciting customers. However, all of the peddlers that spoke to NEXT denied selling to minors.

Governor Babatunde Fashola had, on May 29, 2009, issued an executive order which empowers the State Task Force on Environmental and Special Offences to “enter any known place of distribution of pornographic material and seize such offending materials.”

The task force was also empowered to arrest, and hand over to the police, persons connected to the sale or display of these materials.

“It has become necessary to act decisively in view of the observed flagrant display, broadcasting and sale of pornographic materials on the streets of Lagos and the grave danger it portends to the social health of the people, particularly young children who are likely to read, see or hear the matters contained or embodied in such obscene materials,” said Mr. Fashola.

Subsequently, the task force had embarked on a number of sweeping raids on traders at Alaba International Market, and other prominent areas where such materials were found. However, barely four months after, pornographic materials are slowly reappearing on the streets of Lagos.

“I dey call am karate film,” said a DVD seller who gave his name as Aloy, and who displays his wares from 7pm along Yaba Road, near Tejusoho Market. “I get better ones, no be those ones wey dem dub for Alaba (International Market). People patronise it (them) well well, and I no dey sell to children.”

At the bustling Ikotun bus stop on a Sunday afternoon, a group of teenagers usually display DVDs on large nylon bags spread on the ground near the gutters of Ikotun Road. One of them, who gave his name as Kunle, said he only produces x-rated films on demand.

“Since the ban, I have been hiding my own even though some people here laugh at me for being too afraid,” he said. “I only come out here on Sunday, and only sell to people who are mature enough.”

Experts’ advice

Josephine Effah-Chukwuma, the Executive Director of Project Alert, advises parents to be more attentive to materials that their children are exposed to; and also called on the federal government to complement the efforts of the Lagos government at eradicating children’s exposure to porn materials.

“I think a lot needs to be done, not only by the state government, but also by the federal government,” she said. “All these things affect the minds of young people and damage their psyche. And it is not only DVDs, but the print media also contribute. Some of the papers and magazines on the stand carry images that are not appropriate for children.”

“The Internet is also another place that parents should work harder to censor what their kids are using it for. I think there should be a concerted effort by parents, organisations, companies, and the government to protect children from exposure to pornography,” she added.

Mrs. Olugbenro is certainly doubling her efforts, as she has adopted stricter measures at censoring her son’s usage of the screens.

“Now, I have begun periodic raids on his room to make sure that nothing like that exists again,” she said.

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Reader Comments (29)


Posted by michelangelo on Oct 25 2009

There's a lot of hypocrisy surrounding porn. Truth is sex/porn fascinates the vast majority people (be them priests or pentecostals or presidents or ordinary parents ... or children). Year in year, out ranks of closet porn connoisseurs (same sanctimonious people that rage against it in public) are found out and are constrained to admit or confess their "porn loving sins" in public. My personal take is that porn becomes much sought after and an abusive influence mainly when it is illicit and consigned to the dark. Let sex/porn be demystified. In a perfect world, the art/science of sex (especially mutual sexual pleasing between legitimate partners) should be taught to children and young persons from an early stage of comprehension of the subject. More likely than not this will lead to a lot more maturity and satisfaction for men and women alike in marriages and relationships. Ergo, less frustration, less infidelity and an overall happier and more wholesome planet.

Posted by Fhemmmy on Oct 25 2009

This is not the govt's duty to make sure that the kids are not watching porn. . . it is the duty of the parents. This is why it is important for the parents to know their kids, be their best friends, spend time with them, and it is not all about chasing money and going to the ngbati parties, let dem parties go and Dads too needs to leave those small girls alone and take care of Junior. If Daddy can watch superman with Junior, he will love that and leave porn alone. The govt is not a family cop.

Posted by toba on Oct 25 2009

Children of nowadays are opening eye negatively.With adequate guidiance,councelling&tutorliage,by parents,guardians&teachers for children of this generation,we would have a sanitized society

Posted by TheSeeker on Oct 25 2009

If your child has access to horror movies then you should be ashamed of yourself as a parent. First off, you don't keep stuff like that within children's reach. It's not only knife, guns, acid, medicines that you keep out of their reach; there are other things that kill gradually internally than these things. A little boy watching porn movies will turn out definitely to be nasty - there's no question about it.>>> You have to pay more attention to your child's activities.>>> You have to show interest and support their hobbies>>> You have to create your private time to talk and learn with them.>>> You have to always imbibe an acceptable culture in them.>>> You have to understand what kinds of friends they keep.>>> You have to let them know how wonderfully proud you are, and how they will come short of earning your love if they mess up.>>> There are lots more that need be done. Also, you need to know that only God takes care of these children but as they say, heaven helps those who help themselves.

Posted by The Maverick on Oct 25 2009

Fhemmy, you said it all, Government is not family cop, Question is did Mrs Olugbenro or the writer try to find out how the child got the porn video he was watching, I can bet it is hard for a 6 year old even 11 tear old to go all out on the street to buy porn videos if there wasn't any clue from the closest person which should be the parents.

Posted by Adeola Bello on Oct 25 2009

There is nothing new under the sun.Our parents need training on their children before it is too late for the children.The bible has already advised as regards this issue

Posted by Femi Palmer on Oct 25 2009

Such things have been happening long before some of us discovered it. How about the story of kids, then, reading the out-of-ciirculation Lolly- Adventures of Nackson. All the more reason why these kids should be taught Sex Education.

Posted by Francis on Oct 25 2009

@michelangelo I don't think any sane society with true values will subscribe to your recommendation, which is vile to say the least. The fact remains that sex has it's place in private lives and in society... and that place is in Marriage. For God's sake we are MEN not animals, if you know the difference

Posted by Francis on Oct 25 2009

@TheSeeker, Thank you!

Posted by Mikey on Oct 25 2009

Everyone here speaking their hypocritical minds are fascinated by porn. Many of them got in contact with porn at an early age. The boys and girls would find it. Live them alone. We should be talking about making the economy and educaton better, improving N.E.P.A, and increasing quality of health care. This porn talk is a big discraction to the main issues.

Posted by Haywire on Oct 25 2009

Abeg, allow michelangelo, he's a liberal. But honestly, I agree with the other commenters that the parents should be responsible for keeping such material away from their kids. Frankly, I'm curious. How does an 11 year old get money from his parent and simply walk out and by porn? Without anybody commenting on it? The mother herself, why didn't she ask him what he did with his money? Parents in Nigerian society need to step up and stop leaving it to Providence to raise their kids. So u put them through school and feed them big deal. If you don't show them what is right and wrong, then you are effectively abandoning their moral upbringing. So why should u be shocked when junior watches porn? The child doesn't know any better. Seizing all the pornographic materials won't make a difference when kids have the internet, and a magical button known as "Clear Browser History". But if they are taught what not to pursue, then it stops becoming an issue

Posted by Francis on Oct 25 2009

@Mikey, you think this is not an important issue.... wait until someone you know close to you...stars in one of em

Posted by Francis on Oct 25 2009

@Haywire, Every Internet enabled computer in every home should have an internet filter installed for this purpose. There are many free ones, I use OPEN-DNS for example, spares you having to wear 'wooden' glasses to preserve your mind

Posted by daniel on Oct 25 2009

During my childhood years,the first movie I watched was the sound of music,first book,famous five,TV was from 4 to 8pm. The government was not the one who kept me of adult related material,it was my hard working banker dad and business woman mother. My parents knew what I was doing every minute. Every gift I got,every book I won was cleared via the customs in my house! This is simply a question of poor parenting nothing else. Go to the cinemas,there are 5 year olds watching PG 13,16 and even R rated movies. They buy the movie tickets themselves.Nobody says anything. Even worse they are watching movies during school hours or late at night! In civilised societies,the child protection and welfare services are called in and the mother explains why she derserves to be called a PARENT. It appears we are now leaving the task of raising our kids to government.

Posted by Poor Nigerian on Oct 25 2009

LOL @ michelangelo. I agree wit you though. The morality hypocrisy in Nigeria is just too much. Anyway, govt should not be banning the sale of porno films to consenting adults, although I can understand regulations to keep it out of the hands of children in a country where formal sex education is virtually non-existent.

Posted by efosa on Oct 26 2009

@ michaelangelo: porn is not d biggest evil in dis country but u shud know dat nija is not holland or another place like dat which allow or teach such things. @ francis: r u sure u r not franca. u sound like u r a lady even if u r shoutin dat we r all men

Posted by Maka on Oct 26 2009

Michelangelo, I totally agree with you. Lets demystify sex to kids. there's just so much parents can control. you are not with him/her all day. what you stop him from watching at home, he will watch in a more liberal friends house. But when he understands the basics and also understands that it is not the time for him maybe... he can choose not to watch. kids are growing up faster than we know it ad we should stop burying our heads in the sands of hypocrisy and religion. Britain says teach comprehensive sex education. let them know all options. America says teach only abstinence. joke is on them, they have the one of the highest rates of teenage pregnancy...

Posted by ik on Oct 26 2009

this is serious

Posted by canadian on Oct 26 2009

Good advise Daniel, I believe the whole problem is coming from the parents who when they are supposed to know their children and what they do, prefer to go all after the money which at the end of the day when gotten are left for spoilt children to squander. I think parents should at least know their children. At my age, I find it extremely hard to set my eyes on ponographic materials this i know is a result of the close marking ma parents gave to me at childhood

Posted by nijalaw on Oct 26 2009

Back in the early 80's when I was a teen, it was so easy to buy a pornographic materials whether it was magazines, books, VHS or Betamax. The chaps selling them then did not give a hoot back then, we are in the now 00's so it should be much worse.

Posted by Chizy on Oct 26 2009

lwkm...brb

Posted by fuguez on Oct 26 2009

And what exactly does the Government seek to do about online porn, especially now that the 'Glo Cable' is coming on line? I know: they could always make sure we have no power to watch and unreliable telecom connections.

Posted by R. Jackson on Oct 26 2009

Interesting comments. I suspect Michelangelo, Mickey and Maka are one and the same person. I agree with TheSeeker, Haywire and Daniel. And I agree with Francis (re exclusive relationships) from the point of view of the many STDs plaguing our citizens - it seems even in the 3rd millennium people are stupidly not using protection. Unfortunately, Nigerians are too busy producing children and trying to make money than to devote time to the proper upbringing of their children, and the upbringing is more often left to the mother alone. Many Nigerian men consider it a thing of pride to father as many children as possible from several women. UN forecasts indicate that Nigeria's population will be 300millon by the year 2050 (expected to be the third most populous nation after India and China).

Posted by efosa on Oct 26 2009

na wa 4 all d camofladge. michael angelo cannot be living in nija. d man must be in holland. francis seeker haywire daniel and r.jackson r all d same lady. if not d same they must be sisters.

Posted by Toye on Oct 26 2009

The problem with all this porn fears lies with the parents. An economic situation that makes parents turn their nannies to children minders is partly responsible. Moreover, we pay lip service to our sancta morality. What is vile in porn? I really want to know. Is it that we don't children to see what adult genitalia look, or what adults do with them? Our duty is to make them understand what it is, and when they reach the age of doing these things adult do, we advise them on how to go about it. Occupu our youths with productive things, and porn will not be a problem. Holland liberalised porn in sex education, yet their teenagers don't move about with unwanted pregnancies or veneral diseases. Nigeria mystifies sex through culture, religion and even government, yet pastors and imams hide DVDs besides their bibles and korans. Oh ye Hypocrites!

Posted by akunbe on Oct 26 2009

@mickey, thank you. this is a whole bunch of hypocrisy. half of the people who have posted comments here have one porn secret or the other but you know the yoruba saying, you are not a thief until you are caught stealing. obviously ya'll don't have kids and seem to have forgotten how smart they can be. i can assure you that no matter the raids and spot checks you do on kids rooms if they don't want you to find it, no way you are going to. my parents would faint now if they knew that at the age of 8 i saw a porn mag, it wasn't from the house but in school i.e primary school!the thing is if you're into porn, keep it away from kids but sex education is important, when children know the fundamentals of sex, then they do not have to go about trying to learn from the wrong people and in the wrong places.

Posted by Solely representing Maka on Oct 26 2009

Please understand, when I say demystify porn and teach comprehensive sex education, i dont mean buy porn and watch with your daughter or son. But there are educational videos that teach about sex which parents can watch with them. There are books too. Through this they get a sense of sex as something that happens between consenting adults and something respectful. tell them about the indignity of porn. Remind them that the actors are paid to act like they like it. Its a scary war against innocence out there: paedophiles, rape, STD's, HIV. STD's are not just affecting adults. Kids are contacting it too. and due to their ignorance and fear, they are not telling parents, nor are they getting treated. Gird the kids armour with information not pretence. @Francis: quit being prudish. you probably started having wet dreams when you were 13-15 yrs. You didnt invite it, that is just the way your body was made. In the olden days men got married from 18 yrs and lessons were learned on the hallowed matrimonal beds. Now same young man/woman has an extra 15 yr hiatus and you think we shouldnt teach them how to control normal body reactions?! Give them a comprehensive sex education and they would probably view porn with less fascination. Another thing is to encourage kids to read. That worked for me. Bedtime stories, Chike and the river, Fairytales, Secret Seven, famous Five, Nancy Drew, Sweet Sixteen, pacesetters,Things fall apart,Jagua nana's daughter...Notice the graduation? Those books reminded me of what kids my age were supposed to be doing. @R. Jackson: Adults are not using condoms cos even condom use is now political. Govt HIV/AIDS programs are mainly sponsored by PEPFAR and PEPFAR says preach abstinence. Our religious heads too are saying same thing so what do we have? Govt is no longer subsidizing nor encouraging importation of condoms. The man on the street is not ready to cough out N350 for a pack of durex condoms you know. @Fluguez: which one concern govt with online porn. Dont you have parental control on your pc/laptop?

Posted by Anexxus on Oct 27 2009

A pretentious, lying and hypocritical generation...The 28 comments above won't be dere if the article was titled "Junior is praising God"



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